WHILE YOU CAN never get all the way into your Other’s head and think with their thoughts and feel through their body, the goal of listening is to step as close as you can to that depth of understanding, to the view from their ledge over the canyon.

image: Viewing view from other's side... maybe through their eyes literally somehow, maybe showing contrast with your view....

This doesn’t mean that you have to support and stand behind all of your Other’s opinions and actions. You can travel to the heart of their perspective and still decide to disagree. What matters is that you gently seek to understand their point of view, for simply the act of listening is a profound sign that you value your Other.